Self-Confidence is a state that separates the average from the great. Most of us, at some time, will have struggled with the belief that we can achieve our goals. It’s always important to remember that even the greatest leaders, athletes and celebrities suffer with a lack of confidence. Whether it’s in your work, in your sport or in your relationship – you’re not alone and you will only grow if you’re are the best version of YOU.
A lack of confidence can result from a negative mind-set, a poor relationship or when we have failed at something we were desperate to be successful in. Anxiety and confidence are mental partners that can seriously affect our mental state and performance if we let them.
Here’s five tips to create a greater self-confidence:
1. Act like Success
This isn’t about ego – act like a success is simple, it is about acting how you would like to be seen. To achieve this, using visualisation as a technique is recommended. Visualisation is the ability to look ahead and see yourself being successful. The best example is Jim Carrey, who for many years, would drive down Mulholland Drive to see the big houses and the entire city of LA to visualise what his life could be like. Jim had a more powerful tool, as while sitting there looking at the city below, he wrote himself a check for $10 million, dated it Thanksgiving 1995, added the notation “for acting services rendered,” and carried it in his wallet from that day forth. When you believe something to be true, you see the world in that way.
2. Say goodbye to negative thoughts & people
Positive energy leads to positive outcomes. This means you need to firstly set your mind to see the positive in situations, this itself can create a massive, fast and lasting change. The mind will always attempt to cause doubts and negative thoughts, but dealing with this ego is something you will have to go through if you do not have positive energy from the outset. You can do this by beating your ego: firstly, by the next time you hear negativity in your head, switch it to a positive affirmation and keep it going till you push past the anxiety. Secondly, by putting enthusiasm into your interactions with others and what you do. You must stop focusing on the problems and instead focus on the solutions and the benefits in every situation.
3. Strengthen your mind-set
There are three easy and great ways to strengthen your mind-set: exercise, meditate and be happy. Exercise will increase health, strength and confidence while also decreasing stress and anxiety.
Meditation is a method used to clear away negative feelings and stress to restore your sense of balance. For meditation I recommend using the app ‘Head Space’ via your smartphone. Happiness is key and it lies within you. It was there on the day you were born, at every single moment, and is within you right now. So you can stop looking outside yourself for happiness.
4. Generate Performance Accomplishments
When you have goals, that are SMART specific, it motivates you to achieve your steps to your dream. When you achieve each goal that is what gives you the self-confidence to push on to the next. The best example that I have seen of this is something called ‘3 by 5’. This technique ensures each day we have three targets, that are SMART and are aligned with our project, and must be achieved by the end of the working day. If you are not gaining confidence from this technique, I recommend you add rewards for when you achieve the goals. This is called celebration as it will motivate you further and give you confidence by intrinsic rewards.
5. When I believe, I will see
I’ll let you re-read that and yes you read right. You will not achieve anything unless you believe you can do it first. This belief will give you the confidence you require to achieve your dreams. How do you begin to believe? You must find examples of people that achieved something and use that to build your belief – this will give you the confidence, as you see it is possible for others to achieve what you are working every day for.
Self-Confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have. How can anyone see how great you are if you can’t see yourself?