Monthly Archives: January 2017

Focus on what you can do and not what you can’t

I feel like we spend so much of our life focusing on the things we need to be better at, the things we want to change and the things we need to learn but what if we focus on our strongest attributes.

If you’re going to be successful, you should focus on 2 or 3 strengths to make them even stronger – this will allow you to gain confidence and be positive in everything you set out to do. Normally, your strengths are related to what you love doing which will also improve motivation to achieve your goals.

Once you have focused on your strengths, this confidence and positivity surrounding you will allow you to spend time and energy where you can educate and grow into areas that you choose to commit to.

Every person including Steve Jobs to Bill Gates have glaring weaknesses and there is no doubt that they have not considered spending time to improve them. Of course, I could sit here trying to help them develop their weaknesses but why would we try to achieve that, when their strengths outweigh their weaknesses? You are no different – Jobs and Gates are valuable and so are you.

There is no need for you to put limitations or negative thoughts into your system, other people will do that, you have your strengths and you’re valuable because of your talent.

“Forget your weaknesses. Increase your strengths and be the most awesome you, that you can be” Tim Fargo

Change your story to change your life

We can be the hero of our story. Our story is the one we tell ourselves, it is the one we are constantly writing and it’s the one that people are reading when they’re looking at us. Our story is by far the most fascinating aspect about being a human as through our imagination we can be anything we want to be.

We have the power to change anything, we have the power to create anything and most of all we have the power to be anything – it is that simple. As Norman Vincent Peale once stated “Change your thoughts and you can change the world”. In fact, the current state of your life is a direct result of the stories you tell yourself and what you believe is possible.

So, what can we do if our story is working against us, here is the process to take back control of our life:

Who do you want to be?

You must know how you want your new story to end but you must be consumed by it, to be able to change your current state. Many people will speak about wanting to be this or wanting to do that but make sure you’re not the person just saying it. The story does not need to be detailed, as the journey is what brings it to life.

Identify where you are

Identifying where you are as your current state is key to moving forwards as it will allow you to recognise areas you will most like to change or evolve. You may find you’re unsure what to change or if there is anything you need to remove but if there is a question or an issue you must address it.

Change or write

After reviewing who you want to be and where you are you must make the decision of whether to change your story or write a new one but either way you must move your state to who you want to be. You must ensure you do not become negative through this process, it is not what you’re doing wrong – it is where you are heading.

Action is everything

The only way your story can come to life is by living it. You must focus not only on the behaviour or situation you want to change but also on the story as that is your belief of who you’re becoming. Action is at the forefront of this movement and will move you towards your happy ending of success.

I don’t know your story, only you do. That is the aspect that fascinates me the most – we are all born naked and we will all die naked but everything between that is entirely up to us to write. Everything is possible so change your story to change your life.

9 things you should give up to be successful

Sacrifice is a key word in relation to success, some can do it and others can’t but there’s a key relationship between our choices and our efforts to success. Sacrifice is defined as giving up (something valued) for the sake of other considerations. This can be defined through modern day examples such as giving up social times during the week with friends, putting in an extra hour at weekends or giving up alcohol to be healthier and more productive.

It is important to understand if it’s something that’s not developing you towards your goal it should have already gone – life is too short to waste time.

Here are 9 things to let go this year:

1. Let go of excuses
It is competitive out there: as we become closer connected, education grows and technologies are developed it will only become more competitive. Letting go of excuses will stop you getting left behind – so if you find yourself saying “I can’t do it today because I am tired” or “Do I have to do that?” LET IT GO NOW. No one is going to do it for you but success is your decision.

2. Let go of saying yes
This was something I learnt last year as I had a habit of saying ‘Yes’ to every opportunity I was offered. Letting go of saying yes means that you become selective and elitist on opportunities you believe in and can execute on. Time is a commodity and shouldn’t be taken for granted so be selective to ensure your productivity and performance is increased.

3. Let go of toxic people
Toxic people are those that waste your energy on things that are not helping you reach your goals. Letting go of toxic people means cutting out anyone that hampers, damages or distracts you from being able to do what you want to do. They must bring positivity and inspiration to your inner circle. It’s my belief if they don’t add value or purpose they must go and I must move on.

4. Let go of control
You can’t control everything in the process of you becoming successful, although you must ensure you do everything that is in your control. Letting go of control means to cut off any stresses or effort that is going into areas you cannot control. This will increase productivity and positivity within everything you do.

5. Let go of a fixed mind-set
A lot of people have a fixed mind-set which means this function will get left behind as others learn to adapt and grow into a new environment. Letting go of a fixed mind-set allows you to be flexible and future proof your offering for the long-term while everything around you constantly changes, adjusts and gets discovered.

6. Let go of playing small
People that play small will always get small rewards. It’s the people that play with no fear and aim high that will get the bigger rewards. Letting go of playing small is important as that normally relates from a lack of self-confidence or trust to be able to achieve anything bigger than what you see. Let’s try this – if you look at your goals and think they’re small – go higher to push yourself past that line of your comfort zone.

7. Let go of an unhealthy lifestyle
Unhealthy lifestyle isn’t just what you eat, it’s your complete environment. This includes consumption of media, people you surround yourself with and exercising. Letting go of an unhealthy lifestyle isn’t easy but will increase your chances of success by increasing a clear mind that can function to reach your goals. This is up to you to decide on what you need to do with your diet, exercise routine and how you use your time.

8. Let go of your ego
To be able to be the best, you must learn how to follow first. The number of talented individuals that reach the first point of success and fall away because of their ego. Letting go of your ego will allow you to become the person you want to be seen as. The only way your performance is going to be increased as well as those around you is by you providing a humble, infectious and productive ego in your environment.

9. Let go of living like a loser
Losers live in the past; winners work towards the future. Letting go of living like a loser is the people that are focused on where they are, rather than where they could be and how to get there. If you want success you must live a few years like most of your friends won’t but remember its only temporary as those who don’t make the sacrifice won’t be able to join you.

Superman vs YOU

Superman showcases the untapped potential for humanity by reminding us of the infinite possibilities and to ensure we bring good into our environment. However, like humans, for this to be achieved he must know his ‘why’, understand how and execute.

If we go deeper, Superman tends to his environment by bringing positive energy to everything he takes on. The environment is what you surround yourself with. Environmental energy which impacts our outcomes, is an aspect Superman brings consistently by showing up powerfully, providing his presence and being as clear as possible. He is surrounded by people like Lois Lane, who help him bring good to his environment and keep him wanting to be the best version of himself. Superman is pro-active in each situation by dealing with his people first before dealing with product, this shows great leadership qualities.

Superman grew up on a farm in Kansas and become a successful idol to the community. This shows that where you grew up or your upbringing, means very little. Therefore, Superman always pushes towards the fight to ensure he stands a chance of overcoming any hurdle. He is evidence for following your beliefs and dreams as he takes on a challenge, not for the money or fame but for the feeling of value.

Superman is aware of the responsibility on his shoulders even with his freedom. He is driven by social responsibility, love and selflessness. This means that you should understand your responsibilities in your environment and what motivates you to reach your success – this will give you direction and values to be the best version of you.

Being the best version of you, will allow you to be consistent and feel content in everything you do. It will allow you to grow and achieve your goals as well as being the person you want to be.

“On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become”

Are you being the best version of you?

3 motivators to ensure you achieve your New Year’s resolution

We all start with the mantra “New Year, new me” but who keeps to this and most of all achieve it?

With new goals, we all start with the same possibilities and opportunities to fulfil our dreams. Our mind-set is the difference in each challenge to achieve our goals, simply it is our ability to change that:

‘Impossible’ into ‘Possible’
‘Can’t’ into ‘Can’
‘Don’t believe’ into ‘I believe’

Here are three motivators to ensure you achieve your New Year goals:

Why do you want it?

Unless you want to achieve it, you will never choose to achieve it. Success is achieved through deliberate hustle and persistence, relevant to your goals. Firstly, you must write your goals and why you want to achieve it using ink or technology. This will assist in visualising the possibilities of achieving your goal. Once you’re content, you should feel capable of telling people publicly about your goals and why you want to achieve them.

Reward, Reward, Reward

If you’re going to be successful and keep repeating the action consistently, you must reward yourself along the journey to ensure you keep growing – even through the small progressions. You must associate yourself with the feeling of success and that feeling will reinforce your end goal and your drive with your subconscious.

Give yourself a finish line

Set a date for direction but not a deadline. The direction is important but putting a date for completion is crucial for motivation. However, this can easily work the other way, so ensure the time is achievable and realistic in regards to your goal or project.

STOP WISHING, START DOING…